Title:The True Measure Of Money In Your Business.
Author: Copyright (c) 2007 Mark Silver
Heart Of Business http://www.heartofbusiness.com/
Shiny new cars. Big mansions. The good life. Even if you're not
a particularly material person, it's easy to be caught by those
images, and to wonder: "Why don't I have that? Is there
something wrong with me?"
It's become especially popular to equate material wealth with
spiritual attainment. "If you do good, and if you think
abundantly, then the untold riches of the universe will pour
forth for you. If you stew yourself in despair and complaint,
then forget it. You get nothing."
Is it true? And if it's not true, then how come you don't have
what all those rich, successful people have? Could it possibly
have maybe a smidgeon of truth in it?
A Tale of Two Clients
Client #1: A very successful guy, in advertising sales. He was
the top earner, and excellent at it. And yet, underneath it all,
he had a fear running him.
Despite having earnings in the mid six-figures US$, he never felt
like he had enough. You couldn't call him greedy- he had a
sincere heart. He was just scared witless that he wasn't going
to be okay.
Taking the time to look at it from a heart-level, he realized
that he was carrying fears from his childhood. After bringing
love and healing to that part of himself (ah, the wonders of
spiritual healing!), he saw something really clearly:
The 'success' he had was keeping him from his family. He opted
for less money, and more family time, and found a great deal of
love and happiness.
Client #2 was different. She was struggling and struggling just
to make ends meet. Although clients loved her, she had very few
of them, and money just wasn't coming in. She was exhausted,
burnt-out, and very near to despair.
Another dose of spiritual healing, compassion, mercy and
strength, and she had her own insight. She saw that she was
blocking out both love and money, because they were tangled
together in her mind around issues with intimacy. When she
invited love in, more money came in, and she began to do quite
well for herself.
Why is money so unpredictable? Is more or less better for me?
Love can be found anywhere: in the poorest, most despair-ridden
parts of the world, and in the richest, most heedless
environments.
It's just that these situations distract us from seeing the Love
around us. In fact, abundant wealth is more dangerous in this
regard than miserable poverty. When one has nothing, in some ways
it's easier to turn to the more profound qualities of life, like
Love and Compassion.
This tendency is from whence comes the mistaken idea that
physical poverty is somehow holier than having physical wealth.
It's also fueled a backlash of belief that physical wealth is a
sign of being spiritually advanced.
Neither is true. The physical world is only a vehicle for deeper
Divine truths. Anything in the physical world can carry Love and
Mercy. Attaining wealth doesn't mean you have one whit of
spiritual advancement, and lacking wealth doesn't mean you are
poor in spirit.
The trick is: can you find love, truly feel real Divine love in
your heart, for richer or poorer? Of course, being able to do
this in truly extreme circumstances is the sign of a saint- and
if that's you, I'll be your best friend. ;)
But, hey, I just want to make ends meet.
Here's the Sufi spiritual teaching: everything in this world is
a mirror of the Divine. Money is NOT a measurement, it's a part
of that mirror.
Your business can make ends meet. But, if you're struggling with
money, no matter how much or how little you have, then stop for a
minute trying to get more of it. I know it's scary, but to
discover the truth, you need to look in the mirror that is your
money situation.
What is being reflected back to you? Keep reading.
Keys to Looking in the Money Mirror
* Get honest.
Instead of trying to change your money situation, take a breath
and really look at it. What's really going on? How much money do
you have? How much is coming in? How much is going out?
Even if it's scary -- and it's legitimate to feel scared
whether you have big credit card debt, or if you have money in
the bank -- really take some time to notice how do you feel about
your money situation?
Resentful? Angry? Sad? Despairing? If you were talking about a
good friend of yours, instead of money, how would you be talking
to that friend from your current attitude towards money?
* Ask about it.
When we don't like a situation, we make assumptions about it.
"This situation sucks." "Something isn't right." But... what
if your assumptions were wrong? What if, no matter how painful
the situation, there still might be love present?
In your heart, begin to ask to see a deeper a truth. Take time
with this. You probably won't get the deepest, most truthful
answer in the first minute, or even in the first five.
Do NOT ask about how to get more money, or why you don't have
enough money. Those questions contain the assumption that
something is not right about the current situation, and will
block you from seeing a deeper truth.
You might need a buddy to sit with you. I've found that when
I've worked with clients in the Heart of Money Transformational
Journey exercises, the issues that come up have so much emotion
in them, that it's helpful to have a friend sitting with you,
not saying anything, just making space for what is.
* Be willing to be surprised.
If the answer you get is one you already know, or if you still
have even a twinge of resentment or upset still, then it's
probably not an answer from your heart. Instead, your mind is
making up stories trying to protect you from what it thinks might
be the painful truth.
Be courageous, and be willing to be surprised. Keep asking in
your heart, with a sincerity and desire to know the truth: "What
is this situation showing me about the Divine and money?"
An answer that has truth in it, will bring relief and love to
your heart, even if the situation hasn't changed at all... yet.
* Work on your business.
It's now possible to be more effective in your business, once
you are no longer resisting/fighting your money situation. And
that in turn will help your business develop and be more
profitable.
Having money or not having money is no measure in any sense of
spiritual attainment. However, finding love and compassion in
your current money situation will release blocked inspiration,
which you can then put to good use here on earth, nourishing your
business and your clients.
The best to you and your business,
Mark Silver
Mark Silver is the author of Unveiling the Heart of Your
Business: How Money, Marketing and Sales can Deepen Your
Heart, Heal the World, and Still Add to Your Bottom Line.
He has helped hundreds of small business owners around
the globe succeed in business without losing their
hearts. Get three free chapters of the book online:
http://www.heartofbusiness.com